Explore how gambling addiction can fuel infidelity and deception, eroding trust and intimacy in relationships. Learn about the emotional toll and steps to address these challenges for healthier connections.
When Gambling Addiction Fuels Infidelity and Deception in Relationships
The slots are spinning, cards are dealt, and bets are frantically placed. Gambling addiction breeds an intoxicating high of risk and reward.
Yet in the shadows, the devastating costs of this high emerge through broken trusts, lies and infidelity.
Does gambling drive people to cheat on their romantic partners financially and sexually? Research and psychology provide insight into this fraught topic.
Hiding Financial Losses Erodes Trust
Compulsive gambling often leads to financial deception known as “financial infidelity” against romantic partners.
Addicts frequently hide the extent of money blown on sports bets, poker and slots to avoid consequences.
One study found two-thirds of disordered gamblers admitted lying to their partners about the amount they gambled.
This financial duplicity corrodes relationships. Partners feel betrayed and unable to trust their gambler significant other.
They lose faith in dreams of shared financial security like buying a home together or retirement. Financial infidelity also ignites arguments about money and erodes intimacy.
Partners Enable Addiction Through Codependency
Sadly, the trauma bonding dynamic of codependency causes some romantic partners of gambling addicts to enable the problem.
They may loan their gambler money to chase losses or pay off their debts. Partners rationalize these “bailouts” as demonstrations of love and commitment.
However, this finances further out-of-control gambling. Partners lying about debts and covering for the gambler also allows the addiction to thrive secretly.
Although meant to help, enabling through deception and softened consequences warps relationships in unhealthy ways.
Thrill-Seeking Drives Sexual Infidelity
Gambling and sex both activate powerful pleasure and reward circuits in the brain.
For some addicted gamblers, the craving for that euphoric rush drives them to also compulsively pursue sexual thrills through infidelity and addictive pornography use.
Studies show a strong correlation between disordered gambling, substance abuse and risky sexual behaviors. This reflects an underlying dysfunction in impulse control mechanisms.
When gambling no longer provides sufficient excitement, addicted brains seek out additional mood-altering behaviors like sex and drugs.
Online Gambling Enables Discrete Infidelity
The rise of mobile and internet gambling also facilitates more secretive infidelity and deception.
With access to online betting 24/7, gamblers can more easily hide obsessive gambling on phones and computers from their partner’s awareness.
This privatization allows gambling addiction to flourish anonymously. Partners may suspect relationship problems but have difficulty uncovering the reality.
The ability to disguise financial losses and time spent gambling digitally escalates deception from addicted gamblers towards their loved ones.
Lying to Cover Up Consequences
Problem gamblers also frequently lie to hide negative consequences from their excessive betting.
Covering up job loss from missing work, hiding arrests for criminal activity to fund gambling, and minimizing arguments triggered by financial stress represent some examples.
Admitting the truth risks concerned partners intervening and limiting their access to gambling opportunities. Deception helps conceal the addiction’s harms.
However, when dishonesty is inevitably exposed, the betrayals compound relationship damage. Partners feel manipulated on top of already feeling neglected.
Reduced Inhibitions Stir Risky Behaviors
Being immersed in the hyper-stimulating environment of casinos also lowers inhibitions and moral awareness for some disordered gamblers.
Surrounded by alcohol, drugs and sex work, those struggling with addiction can make regrettable choices violating their commitment to their partner back home.
What happens in Vegas doesn’t always stay there. Some professionals worry about a link between gambling addiction and risks of contracting STDs then spreading them to partners through this uninhibited behavior. For both men and women gamblers, the chaos of addiction can upend otherwise monogamous relationships.
Underlying Mental Health Issues Require Treatment
In many cases, untreated mental health conditions like bipolar disorder, PTSD, narcissism or borderline personality drive both gambling addiction and associated relationship betrayal behaviors.
Until proper psychiatric help is received, the self-destructive patterns will continue.
Research shows that suicidal thoughts often accompany gambling problems as addicted partners reach despair.
Effective therapy and medication can help restore impulse control, ethics and empathy where the illness has eroded them. Sometimes infidelity is a symptom of a larger psychiatric crisis.
Paths Forward Through Openness and Understanding
Though betrayals cut deep, paths forward are possible for couples facing infidelity and deception linked to problem gambling. Willingness to open up honestly coupled with compassion are key starting points.
Joining Gamblers Anonymous together shows commitment to recovery. Financial transparency rebuilds broken trust. Couples counseling fosters understanding about vulnerable psychology beneath poor choices.
Final Thoughts
While the road is painful, many relationships emerge stronger with wives and husbands working as a team to beat gambling addiction and recommit to faithfulness. By replacing secrecy with openness, gamblers and partners reconnect.
Gambling Problem Help
While gambling is meant to be enjoyable, it can become a serious issue for some individuals. If you’re experiencing difficulties related to gambling, seek help from:
- National Council on Problem Gambling or call 1800-6-668-668
- All Addiction 6-RECOVER: 6-7326837 or visit the National Addictions Management Service
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